Nobody Would Blame You
When I first stopped drinking — when I stopped eating sugar, stopped hitting the snooze button, stopped the many small (and honestly by societal standards, impossible) habits that were quietly chipping away at the quality of my life — life kept happening.
And a voice would whisper:
Nobody would blame you.
Nobody would blame you if you got drunk right now. You’re losing your house. Your livelihood. You’re in more debt than you ever imagined.
Nobody would blame you. It’s Christmas. It’s New Year’s. It’s your anniversary.
Nobody would blame you. You were up all night in pain. You can’t sleep. You’re exhausted.
And here’s what I learned:
“Nobody would blame you” moments will always come.
That sentence can sound compassionate. Understanding. Even wise.
But it doesn’t change your trajectory. It simply keeps you circling.
This is the heart of what I explore inside Return to Light.
That’s when clarity matters most.
What do I want?
Who do I want to be?
Because the world will always offer permission to stay the same.
You are a woman in your prime.
You have built things. Held families together. Succeeded in ways both visible and invisible.
And yet sometimes, beneath all that competence, there is a quiet hum of indifference. A subtle apathy. A gentle numbing.
Not dramatic. Not destructive. Just… dull.
Now — more than ever — is the time to work through that.
Not by walking away from your life. Not by labeling yourself. Not by blowing anything up.
But by getting curious.
Is this the best I can do to feel alive, seen, and heard?
Are my loved ones hearing from the soul of who I am — or from a version I think they expect?
This is why we reach for things. Alcohol. Sugar. Scrolling. TV binges.
They soothe the discontent. They quiet the inner knowing. They numb the whisper:
Is this all there is?
Growth doesn’t require a new identity.
Breaking habits isn’t about becoming someone else. It’s about disrupting what’s always been with a quieter, braver question:
I wonder what else could be?
Some people prefer living within the safety of a system. Others feel the pull to swing the gate open and stand at the horizon.
Neither is wrong.
But you deserve to choose consciously.
Nobody would blame you for staying the same.
But that doesn’t mean it’s the woman you’re becoming.
If this resonated, you’re welcome to keep walking with me.
And remember, you are so loved.
