The Problem with “Fresh Starts”
New Year’s Day.
Mondays.
Birthdays.
They carry so much expectation.
But if we’re honest, that expectation is rarely about who we want to become.
It’s about what needs to be fixed.
Drink less.
Weigh less.
Do more.
Be better.
These “fresh starts” are usually anchored in perceived deficiency. They don’t begin with vision. They begin with correction.
Today is the first day of fixing what’s wrong with me.
That’s the cultural script.
And it sounds motivating — but it’s quietly rooted in shame.
Why the Flip-the-Switch Approach Fails
Some people appear to flip a switch.
They stop drinking.
Start a diet.
Tidy their spaces.
Commit to a new routine.
Until one bad day.
One missed meal.
One distraction.
And the seal cracks.
One more drink.
A piece of cake.
“I’ll get to it tomorrow.”
The problem isn’t discipline.
The problem is the starting point.
When we begin from self-correction instead of self-connection, we’re building on a fragile foundation. The smallest disruption feels like proof that we are still “the problem.”
And so we return to what’s comfortable.
Not because we’re weak —
but because we were never building from wholeness.
The Invitation: Evolution, Not Fixing
There is a New Moon Eclipse aligning with the Chinese New Year and the Year of the Fire Horse on Tuesday, February 17th.
It feels symbolic. Powerful. Charged.
But this moment isn’t about dramatic change.
It’s about intentional evolution.
Evolution doesn’t happen suddenly — even when it feels like it does.
It happens through awareness.
Through steady decisions.
Through choosing alignment over reaction.
Over the next few days, be still.
Ask yourself:
Who do I want to be?
How do I want to experience the rest of my life?
Not:
What needs to stop?
What needs to shrink?
What needs to be controlled?
But:
What feels alive?
From “Fixing a Problem” to Becoming a Whole Woman
You are not a woman with a drinking problem.
You are not a woman with a weight problem.
You are not a woman with an organization problem.
You are a whole woman who has been taught to focus on her fractures.
The focus now is not on eliminating flaws.
It’s on becoming integrated.
It’s learning to love yourself from the inside out.
That’s different energy.
It’s steady.
It’s grounded.
It’s sustainable.
You’re not looking for perfection.
You’re looking for progress.
Daydream About Who You Are Becoming
Take time to see her.
The woman you are evolving into.
What is she wearing?
What is she doing?
What does she love?
When does she feel most alive?
How does she spend her time?
Who does she spend it with?
How does she speak to herself?
Then get curious.
What small steps would move you toward her?
Not drastic moves.
Not punishment.
Just alignment.
You Don’t Need a Moon to Begin
You don’t need a holiday.
You don’t need an eclipse.
You don’t need a crisis.
You can decide today to honor yourself as a whole woman.
Not just a mom.
Not just an employee.
Not just a wife.
Not just a caretaker.
Not even just a cat servant.
You are becoming.
And you deserve more than numb.
And remember — you are so loved.
