Who the F*ck Am I?
It’s not a midlife crisis. It’s a soul awakening. And it starts with the question that disrupts everything you’ve built but no longer believe in.
Have you ever looked around at your life—the routines, the roles, the carefully kept image—and thought:
“Who the fuck am I?”
It’s not always shouted. Sometimes it’s whispered.
In the pause between doing all the right things and wondering why you feel so empty.
In the middle of the night when everyone else is asleep but your soul is wide awake.
In the quiet grief of realizing you’ve created a life that fits, but doesn’t feel like you.
When Everything Looks Right… But Feels Wrong
You’ve done what you were supposed to do.
You built a life that makes sense—on paper.
The job, the family, the home, the values.
You’ve become dependable. Admired, even.
But behind all that is a gnawing disconnection.
Not because your life is a lie.
But because you got lost in the making of it.
You created systems, structures, and beliefs to support the version of you that could hold it all together.
And you did—until one day, you looked in the mirror and couldn’t find your soul.
Because here’s the truth:
Even if it all works, it doesn’t mean it works for you.
A House Built on Sand
You may have parts of yourself that feel true.
Pieces that are beautiful and strong.
But when those pieces were shaped by survival, performance, or people-pleasing… they don’t always fit.
It’s like building a stunning home… but placing it on an unstable foundation.
The walls look perfect, but you feel the shift.
A subtle wobble. A slow ache. A knowing that eventually, something’s going to give.
My Collapse Was My Rebirth
I’ve lived this.
In my late 20s into my mid-30s, everything appeared right from the outside.
I had what I thought I was supposed to want.
But inside? I was unraveling. I felt like a stranger to myself.
Eventually, it all collapsed.
And as painful as it was, it was also sacred.
Because when you’re reduced to rubble, you’re left with a choice:
Lie there and fade away.
Or rebuild—with truth. With intention. With your soul in every brick.
I chose the second path.
And I’ve been walking beside women who are ready to do the same ever since.
You Don’t Have to Wait for It to All Fall Apart
Maybe you’re already hearing the whisper.
Maybe it’s getting louder.
That ache? That emptiness?
It’s not failure. It’s your soul asking for your attention.
You don’t have to burn it all down.
But you do have to tell the truth.
To stop performing.
To let go of what’s “right” and reach for what’s real.
Because this isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about remembering who the fuck you are.
Ready to Start Asking the Real Questions?
If this stirred something in you, that’s not by accident.
This is the work I do—with women just like you.
Women who are done settling, numbing, or molding themselves into someone they no longer recognize.
If you’re ready to reclaim your truth and rebuild something real, you don’t have to do it alone.
- Check out Take the Pen – a 6-week experience to explore who you’ve been, who you are, and who you’re becoming.
- Or visit Apathy to Alive – a monthly gathering where women come to wake up, reconnect, and rise.
And if you’re not ready for all that?
Start with the question:
Who the fuck am I?
And listen—really listen—to what your soul says next.
About Teresa Rodden
Teresa Rodden is a coach, author, and guide for women in their prime who are ready to stop numbing, start feeling, and live with purpose. Through her signature message, Love Yourself Back to Light, Teresa helps women reconnect with their truth, rewrite limiting narratives, and remember their brilliance. Whether through her writing, coaching programs, or live workshops, she invites women to embrace curiosity, courage, and the power of their own story.
Connect with Teresa on Instagram @i_am_teresarodden or learn more at TeresaRodden.com.
