We Don’t Rush Wisdom. We Make Space for It.

 

As we come to the close of January, I want to pause—not to slow momentum, but to widen the conversation.

Today’s note isn’t a deep dive into Chapters 9 and 10 yet. That will come next week.

Instead, I want to spend a moment with a short but potent chapter we don’t formally cover in the four-week Return to Light Gathering—Chapter 7.

“You are closer to the exit than the entrance.”

This isn’t meant to be heavy or morbid.
It’s meant to be liberating.

Before I go further, I want to share the intention behind the Return to Light Gatherings.

This work isn’t about fixing you.
It isn’t about diagnosing you.
And it certainly isn’t about creating a need for me.

It’s about generating curiosity.

I offer context.
I offer questions.
I hold a container.

But the real work—the real magic—happens when you begin strengthening the muscle of asking your own questions and answering them honestly.

And yes… that includes learning how to make peace with the judge.

Because let’s be honest—there’s a judge in all of us. Some just speak louder than others.

I’ve never wanted women to depend on me.
I’ve always wanted to help women remember their own wisdom, fine-tune their intuition, and cultivate curiosity.

“I wonder…” should be a common phrase for women in their prime.
This is our time to play.

That philosophy is what sets this work apart from more traditional approaches.

My work has helped women who struggled with alcohol—but it was never about alcohol. Which means it isn’t limited to alcohol.

It could be snacking.
Binge-watching.
Disengaging from life.
Not expressing who you are.
Losing curiosity.

All of it matters—because these things animate our lives and make life worth living.

Which brings me back to Chapter 7.

Many women I’ve worked with—late 40s, 50s, 60s, even 70s—experience something powerful when they let this idea land.

They don’t shrink.
They don’t slow down.
They actually come alive.

They release expectations they spent decades carefully constructing to fit into the world.
They stop performing.
They stop negotiating themselves.

And what emerges is clarity.
Energy.
Authenticity.

This work doesn’t require you to understand why you are who you are.

If what you need is therapeutic processing or closure, I will always encourage working with a counselor or therapist.

This work is for when you’re ready to spread your wings.

When you recognize:
I don’t want to feel this way anymore.
I don’t want to live like this anymore.

If that’s where you are—I’m your gal.

Last week, during the Return to Light Gathering, no one showed up.
And honestly—it was perfect.

I held the call anyway. I read through the chapters, which are intentionally short—never meant to be rushed. They’re meant to be contemplated. To stir questions. To invite insight.

I answered every question myself.

Even after decades of doing this work, I was reminded how easy it is to skip the practice when we think we’ve “figured it out.”

I didn’t feel immediate clarity—but it felt good to say the scary things out loud and let them simmer.

And later, that space created a breakthrough.
I could feel my mojo returning.

Here’s the reframe I want to leave you with:

We’re closer to the exit than the entrance—and that doesn’t mean less life.
It means more reason to live out loud.

Right now matters.

If you’re not engaging with life, not curious, not having experiences that show you something new about yourself—you’re not really living. You’re just waiting.

And I know you want more than that.

As January closes, consider this an invitation—not to do more, but to live more intentionally.

We don’t rush wisdom.
We make space for it.